Beliefs about death
These people often blame the medical doctors for not "saving their lives". This is a symptom of the crazy beliefs we are taught here in the West.
We Western people have a "junk food" approach to eating and a "junk life" approach to death. In both cases more is better and don't give a damn about the quality.
In Islam people believe that death is Gods fate the “will of Allah” so they have less angst when someone dies.
These different beliefs allows those cultures to have more acceptance of death — even when it involves a young child.
In the West many people use someone’s death as the main reason to not live life fully. The death of a close family member is used as an excuse to grieve for the rest of their lives — and this is supported and considered “normal”.
Your personal beliefs about death
Some people have had near death experiences and they can be an interesting start to help you make up your own beliefs.
I suggest that you make up some beliefs about death that make you feel good about dying.
If we do create your own reality then maybe whatever we believe about death is what happens?
The only belief that is true about death is that our human bodies are all going to die.
Death at any age is normal
How exciting and freeing is that?
Yep, not only is death normal but it could happen at any moment
— that too is normal
In the face of death nothing that anyone else says or does or thinks about you matters.
They too will die, just as you will. With this in mind we all have the right to live our lives as we wish.
In the face of our death we can choose to become powerful and live life fully.
Suicide, abortion, murder and other politically incorrect ways to die.
In every culture in the world a certain number of people choose to suicide, abort or they die from a murder. This is a normal part of the "bell curve" of death/life.
If someone dies in one of these ways then it is probably not what most people would prefer, however it is something that has been happening since life started here on earth.
This is also true for may animals. Those lemmings that run off the cliff, the whales that get stranded on the beach are really good at suicide. This is unfortunate, maybe not what you would consider "ideal" however, it is actually a part of living and life.
Not that long ago in indigenous cultures the world over it was "normal" to go and in a bloody way wipe out the tribe next door.
Stephen Pinker wrote a book on violence called "The better Angels of our Nature". He says that traditional cultures had a death BY VIOLENCE rate of about 50%.
Our current rate of death by violence in Australia is about 1.5 per 100,000 — this has dropped by 50% in the last 15 years. Death by violence was much more normal once than it is now.
It was not so long ago in our Western culture men would get out swords and guns at dawn and this was a normal part of life. Not pleasant but some people choose to do these things — it was the "culture".
We are living at a great time of peace and prosperity and at times forget that humans since the beginning of time has died younger and more violently than we do.
This has made us "precious" about death. You can choose to remain precious or you can choose to realise that death is NORMAL and live your life fully whilst you can!
Be grateful for your peaceful life and at the same time remember that you too will die.
The perfect time to die
There is a perfect time to die
This time is somewhere between conception and 140 years old. Every age between these two dates is the perfect time to die.
Relax and know that you too will die at the perfect time for you.
Getting over Grief
However, you can get over the death of a loved one when you realise that dying is normal — for them and for you.
When someone dies we are encouraged by our culture to feel our loss.
We are not encouraged to feel our gratitude for that person for all those years that they were alive in our life.
If you want to feel less grief and go back to living a life of joy then focus on the good times that you had together, and know that you were lucky to have them in your life for so long.
When grieving focus being grateful for the good times
Use your Death as your advisor
Make death your advisor and reclaim your life.
When you realise that you can die at any moment — life becomes precious — you will embrace doing what makes your heart sing.
Life will open up and your fear of "hurting someones feelings" by being yourself will ease.
You will become bold and honest and do what is really right for you.